Why You Should Keep Your Friends Close and Your Enemies Closer When Blogging
Whether you’re a new blogger or someone who has been at it for twenty years, it probably didn’t take long to come across someone who is just plain rude. They feel they need to attack your article for whatever reason, and they do it in a condescending way. I will never quite understand the need to be cruel when discussing an article, but it happens, and as a blogger it’s your job to deal with it.
What makes a fellow blogger an enemy is what you do in response to their snarky comment (as unfair as that may seem). From my experiences, I believe there are three reasons why someone might tempt you to make an enemy:
- Disagreement – I think this is probably the most common way to spark a rude comment from a reader. While controversial posts certainly have their place, and in many cases they’re respected amongst readers, there are people out there who will simply dislike you because of your opinion.
- Ego – This is likely the most uncommon reason why someone might be rude, but it happens nonetheless. Someone might think that they can outwit you by coming up with a rude comment, and they might think they sound cool. This is probably the most pathetic reason to be rude, yet it hurts the most for the authors of the blog post.
- Jealousy – This is the opposite of those with an ego, yet the result is the same. If someone feels threatened by your work or something you said (maybe you changed his/her mind on a topic that they once felt so strongly about), a rude comment could be coming your way.
Regardless the reason for a rude comment, you are on the brink of creating an enemy through your blogging. It is up to you whether or not you want to continue. There are two ways you can react to such comments:
- Be Nice: You can let someone know that you appreciate his/her comments. You might even consider saying that you agree to a certain extent (but don’t lie). In most cases, this will not create an enemy and the person will leave you alone. You could potentially look mature and classy, but you also run the risk of losing credibility.
- Be Mean: On the flip side (and I’m sure you saw this coming), you can be mean. Send a nasty comment right back and ask the person why he/she felt the need to attack you in such a way. If you really disagree with what is being said, say why. This is such to create an enemy and a back and forth of nasty comments.
So is it worth it to create an enemy through blogging? As I’m sure you’ve guessed by now, I think it’s important that you split the difference between the two approaches. You don’t want to be a push over, but you don’t want to be rude right back. Just because someone started it doesn’t mean you have to stoop to his/her level (guess those lessons moms teach really can be applied to blogging). If you do this, then the ball is in your “opponents” court. If they want to be enemies, it’s on them.
Have you ever experienced a rude comment attacking one of your blog posts? What did you do in response?
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Amanda DiSilvestro is a writer on topics ranging from social media to GPS fleet tracking software. She writes for an online resource that gives advice on topics including payroll processing to small businesses and entrepreneurs for Resource Nation.