Why You Should Keep Your Friends Close and Your Enemies Closer When Blogging

Whether you’re a new blogger or someone who has been at it for twenty years, it probably didn’t take long to come across someone who is just plain rude. They feel they need to attack your article for whatever reason, and they do it in a condescending way. I will never quite understand the need to be cruel when discussing an article, but it happens, and as a blogger it’s your job to deal with it.

What makes a fellow blogger an enemy is what you do in response to their snarky comment (as unfair as that may seem). From my experiences, I believe there are three reasons why someone might tempt you to make an enemy:

  • Disagreement – I think this is probably the most common way to spark a rude comment from a reader. While controversial posts certainly have their place, and in many cases they’re respected amongst readers, there are people out there who will simply dislike you because of your opinion.
  • Ego – This is likely the most uncommon reason why someone might be rude, but it happens nonetheless. Someone might think that they can outwit you by coming up with a rude comment, and they might think they sound cool. This is probably the most pathetic reason to be rude, yet it hurts the most for the authors of the blog post.
  • Jealousy – This is the opposite of those with an ego, yet the result is the same. If someone feels threatened by your work or something you said (maybe you changed his/her mind on a topic that they once felt so strongly about), a rude comment could be coming your way.

Regardless the reason for a rude comment, you are on the brink of creating an enemy through your blogging. It is up to you whether or not you want to continue. There are two ways you can react to such comments:

  1. Be Nice: You can let someone know that you appreciate his/her comments. You might even consider saying that you agree to a certain extent (but don’t lie). In most cases, this will not create an enemy and the person will leave you alone. You could potentially look mature and classy, but you also run the risk of losing credibility.
  2. Be Mean: On the flip side (and I’m sure you saw this coming), you can be mean. Send a nasty comment right back and ask the person why he/she felt the need to attack you in such a way. If you really disagree with what is being said, say why. This is such to create an enemy and a back and forth of nasty comments.

So is it worth it to create an enemy through blogging? As I’m sure you’ve guessed by now, I think it’s important that you split the difference between the two approaches. You don’t want to be a push over, but you don’t want to be rude right back. Just because someone started it doesn’t mean you have to stoop to his/her level (guess those lessons moms teach really can be applied to blogging). If you do this, then the ball is in your “opponents” court. If they want to be enemies, it’s on them.

Have you ever experienced a rude comment attacking one of your blog posts? What did you do in response?

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Amanda DiSilvestro is a writer on topics ranging from social media to GPS fleet tracking software. She writes for an online resource that gives advice on topics including payroll processing to small businesses and entrepreneurs for Resource Nation. 

Author: Amanda DiSilvestro

Amanda DiSilvestro gives small business and entrepreneurs SEO advice ranging from keyword density to recovering from Panda and Penguin updates. She writes for the nationally recognized SEO Company HigherVisibility.com that offers online marketing services to a wide range of companies across the country.

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  1. soubhik says:

    Hi amanda..
    In my opinion even if a pro-blogger gives a negative comment on your blog you should be happy to get the attention atleast..then we may handle it the way you have mentioned above..what do you think 🙂

  2. Amanda DiSilvestro says:

    I would say there is a difference between negative, yet respectful and constructive comments and then outright rude comments. I personally would rather have no comments than the comments of someone who is rude and abrasive (I saw this happen to my co-worker just the other day, which sparked this article!); however many people do feel that any comment is better than no comment. I think it just depends upon the type of person you are!

    Thanks for reading!

    • Amanda, you said you’d rather have no comments than the comments of someone rude and abrasive. You’re speaking from emotion and not seeing the big picture. A hot-head who comments on your blog, if handled appropriately (and if not a *complete* idiot) is a gold-mine. I’ve often gotten 8 or 10 posts just from one individual with the back and forth which builds traffic and interest for me. Sure it’s not what the person intended to do, but you know what they say – no one wants to be the first to the party. A blog with zero comments often gets passed by. A blog with a good heated debate gets others involved. Often strangers come to my *defense* because they see the said hot-head being so aggressive. And as I said before, as long as it’s not an idiot dropping F-bombs and being irate, you just may find you have a new fan once you demonstrate you’re not stooping to his or her level and that you can defend yourself and your points effectively.

  3. I could not agree more. I think I was a little bit unclear in this article. It’s definitely great to have some heated debate, and showing that you can defend yourself in an appropriate manner will certainly do wonders for your blog. I think the point I was trying to get across was that I would not want my blog to have all of this attention because of something some rude person said. If the comment is about the article, and they aren’t swearing and being irate as you say, then this can be a positive thing.

    However, I do find that some people go off in a ridiculous direction and sometimes even attack the author for reasons I discussed above–jealousy or ego (not so much disagreement). I am speaking from one experience I had a while ago where someone spent more time complaining about me than leaving valid points. In this situation, I would rather have no comments at all then a bunch of people coming to my rescue about something that has little to do with the content of the article.

    This is what I mean when I say “rude and abrasive.” However, I do see your points and I guess when I’m removed from the situation, having ANY sort of debate is pretty interesting! Thanks for reading and making some great points.

    • Oh good, girl! So we’re on the same page in that respect. I just kinda like using those little trolls to my advantage. Blog away (and good for you responding to each comment – another thing not to take for granted). Keep the conversations flowing! I’m a new fan.

      • Amanda DiSilvestro says:

        You’re so sweet. Exactly the type of person I love to comment on my posts =)

        • Oh I sweet?! Yeah, whatever you little maggot! You can’t even spell and this is a ridiculous post. Your points aren’t even valid! How do you even call yourself a blogger?

          *Just a little practice for ya . . . ” Hee heeee! Great getting to know you and I see we’re now following each other on Twitter and I think Facebook as well. How cool is that? Thank you for this. Get to know my friends (really friends) Nancy and Millicent who posted via Facebook above as well. They’re great for sharing content and engaging in good dialogue as well.

        • Ha, I made the joke that you can’t spell and juuuust after clicking send I noticed I typed “Oh I sweet?!” What am I, a hillbilly? For shame. I’m so ashamed.

  4. Amanda DiSilvestro says:

    Yes!! Too funny. Great to connect with you via Twitter and I’m excited to talk more with Nancy and Millicent. I post on Blogging Pro every Wednesday, but I also post on tons of other sites throughout the week (which I will always tweet). Hopefully I can see more of your writing as well!

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